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Love is a decision
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Posted 4 months ago
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love. People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. You can "make" love. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling. Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!! |
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| Posted 4 months ago Amen. God has a mission for you. That mission may include your marriage partner. One of the most important questions to answer in determining whom to marry is: Do I know that God has designed this union to make the world a better place? If yes, then you're ready to marry. If no, or 'I don't know', then wait to be led. The purpose of marriage is not about making yourself happy or fulfilled; it is the ultimate sacrifice of your selfishness for someone else. |
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| Posted 4 months ago if a person reaches the decision that god has designed this union to make the world a better place , does that mean the marriage is going to be successful.... cannot be sure...... it is fate.....................
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| Posted 4 months ago Has anyone ever seen people fall back in love again after all their children have left the nest? It's incredible to watch them hold hands and look into each other's eyes. They're getting to know one another again.! |
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| Posted 4 months ago The key is loving the person you found--simply beautiful! Even when the person gets on your nerves every now and then, seek the things that make you love them instead of focusing on the things you don't like. Love is such a great gift. |
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| Posted 4 months ago I think I am hard to love...Is it low self-esteem? Government, Arts, Music, Writing, Literature , Astronomy, NASA, Space Forums, Science (NOT science fiction!!!), Mystery, Haunting, Discovery, National geografic and more... |
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| Posted 4 months ago The information posted bring many questions to mind... thank you for giving us something to think about!! I would go a step further and say that Love is NOT a chioce, but is in fact a Command. God has told us to love and that He is Love. In the great harmony of His embrace, I feel we all have that "perfect" partner waiting for us! |
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| Posted 4 months ago This is good. All relationships are work. However there are times of seasons and reasons. People are in your life for a season and a reason even if you don't know the reason until the season has past. |
